Motherhood and writing: a topic buried beneath mounds of advice columns, cries of frustration, and hurtful moral judgments on all sides. Most of what I hear are concerns a child will stall/delay/derail a career, coupled with ways to work around the child.
But this is a different sort of article. This is about the other side of motherhood and writing, the decision that opens the door for all those advice-guides and judgments, and the truth some writers fear to some degree or another.
It’s about accepting—choosing—slower career growth in exchange for raising children and caring for family.
It’s about putting motherhood first.
More mothers do this than talk about it. You won’t hear much about choosing to gaze into a baby’s eyes as she breastfeeds, but you’ll hear lots about one-handed typing to create a first draft while the baby eats. You won’t read many tales about how much more satisfying it is to help your child master riding a bike than it is to complete a solid first draft. And rarely will you see a writer claim that putting avid pursuit of a writing career on hold was the best damned decision of her life. You’ll most often hear the frustrations instead.